ABOUT
My name is Philomena, I am a tantra and embodiment practitioner, educator and writer. My work weaves together tantra, somatics, process-oriented psychology and creativity to support people into more intimate relationship with their bodies and their lives.
I worked for over a decade in mental health and inclusion where I witnessed the corrosive effect of humiliation, judgement and shame on a person’s ability to form a secure sense of self. In this time I developed an approach to teaching and facilitation that centres compassion, trauma awareness, reflection, creativity, love, and embodiment. I taught this approach in universities, designing conferences, and facilitating seminars for educators around the world.
I now work to guide individuals and small groups into intimate relationship with their bodies and their depth processes so that they can feel more at home in themselves, show up more honestly in their relationships, and experience more freedom, pleasure and joy.
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My approach is rooted in the understanding that our intelligence is located throughout our bodies. It does not solely live in the mind, but also in our hands, our hearts, our bellies, and in the shapes and symbols that inhabit our movements. My work is designed to guide you into relationship with this intelligence.
It is my firm belief that we each have the wisdom and resources we need to thrive, however many of us have lost the tools to be able to access this knowledge. I work with you to help you access the intelligence that lives inside of you. My role is to facilitate, accompany and guide. My expertise is what allows your process to unfold in ways that are psychologically supportive and meaningful. Your wisdom is what allows you to move forward.
My work weaves together a blend of modalities to guide you into deeper conversation with yourself. All sessions will generally include some form of movement, meditation, creative self-expression, dialogue and gentle body-based touch. These practices are carefully chosen to help you notice and understand patterns that may no longer be serving you, and find new responses.
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My work is informed by sustained research, practice and reflection in somatic experiencing, tantra, depth psychology, feminism, process-oriented psychology, psychedelic healing, trauma, consent, power, pleasure activism, inclusion, decolonisation, and love.
I work at the intersection of psychology, politics, embodiment, spirituality, philosophy, health, poetry, sexuality, mysticism, education, and ecology. I am intrigued by, and attuned to, the conflicts between these areas of practice. I am keenly aware of the presence of separatist, essentialist and eugenic narratives inside spiritual spaces that consider politics outside of their orbit. I am also keenly aware of the denial of soul, emotion and body in academic spaces that consider the unknown and the abstract sentimental. These blindnesses and exclusions work me, and deeply inform my work.
My work with young people remains my most profound educational experience, and my former students my greatest teachers.
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Trauma Informed Practitioner (Westminster Council, 2020)
Restorative Justice Level 1 (Restorative Now, 2021)
Reiki Levels 1 & 2 (Reiki Maya, 2022)
Process-Oriented Psychology Foundation (Processwork UK, 2022)
Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy (The Embody Lab, 2023)
PGCert Consciousness, Spirituality and Transpersonal Psychology (Alef Trust, 2024)
Tantra, Shamanic Practice and Integral Theory, Stage 1 (Awaken as Love, 2025)
Tantra Teacher Training (Evolve Beings, 2026)
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I have worked throughout my life with complex emotional experiences, both personally and professionally. I worked for many years with young people experiencing serious life challenges and worked to meet them with grace and integrity. I have experienced significant life challenges of my own which I have tried to meet with this same integrity and grace.
I know intimately what it feels like to have to piece yourself together in the dark, what it feels like to lose meaning, what it feels like to look at the world around you and see nothing appealing or familiar at all. Circumstance has meant that I have had to find my way back from these places alone. Somehow, guided by some unknown force inside me, the comfort of trees and water and sunshine, and the voices and wisdom of strangers that I have found in books, music, online, I was led on, through, and out.
Progressively that life force got stronger, clearer. It became about survival, and I became a little more bloody about it. One day my ‘no’ emerged from the very depths of my soul, in an experience I can only compare to what it must feel like to roar. And my whole life changed. It was simple, not anyone, not any system, not any structure, not even myself was going to be allowed within touching distance of my self energy ever again.
Something of a fierce survival instinct emerged, and as it got stronger, it also also got hungrier. It moved from fighting things off, and started to want things. I started to deeply question why I felt so low so often, and realised that I didn’t want to just survive, I wanted to feel good. And as I allowed for that wanting to fill me, I learned just how taboo that wanting is in our culture. Superficial, indulgent, privileged. The layers of shame were astounding and magnificently crafted.
A woman with desires, it turns out, is a problem. But once again I was gifted the voices of strangers, amazing, brave women who had defied everything to pursue their own pleasure, happiness, and joy. Who dared to feel alive inside this grey world. And slowly I began to feel happier. I found new pathways into my pleasure, my sexuality, my body, my self-expression.
And with each new space of freedom I have found buried underneath a trove of pain, shame and wounding. Mine, my mother’s, my brother’s, my father’s, my sister’s, my grandmother’s. Pain so recent and so ancient there was no telling it apart inside my own flesh. An unfolding of the human experience of suffering turned out to be a foundational part of my own liberation. Pleasure and pain folded into one.
At some undisclosed point in time I understood that this is my work. This is both my power and my healing, and the contribution I can make to the wounding that has shaped my family, and the violence that has shaped the earth. It is my way of saying thank you to all those who walked before me. It is my hope that I can offer up the same to others, a reminder back to your beauty, the beauty of life, and the possibility of pleasure, without denying the suffering and the pain. There is still so much undiscovered wonder in this world. I hope my work can help reorient our focus to this wonder, and to the profound creative potential that lives inside every one of us.
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Tantric traditions understand the body, the senses and sexuality not as obstacles on the path to wisdom, but as its most fundamental expression. Tantric practices, philosophies and spaces shine a light on how we can become more fully alive to ourselves, to others and to the world. Tantra offers a path back into relationship with our creative energy, informed by a set of practices that support us to meet the world with love, vitality and devotion.
It is important to recognise that ancient tantric texts sit within a specific cultural, historical and political context, originating in India in the 6th century CE. All modern tantra falls under the umbrella of ‘neo-tantra’ and is a fusion of interpretations of ancient texts with historical re-readings offered by practitioners and scholars who moved between Europe, the US and Asia (mainly India, Tibet and China) over the past 60 years, combined with western psychology, and a whole set of cultural and esoteric philosophies and practices that live at this intersection.
In my personal experience tantra has been a transformative portal that has changed me and how I relate to my life. I have learned to express myself freely, release shame, transmute trauma, sit at the edge of taboo. I have learned how to love and to live and to feel more fully. I also understand its cultural legacies and practical limitations as a westernised practice. My work endeavours to support the cultivation of trauma informed, responsible, inclusive, culturally respectful, gender fluid, and accountable cultures of practice.
It is also important to note that there are many other traditions and cultures that cultivate and honour sexual and creative energy. In our times tantra has been made accessible to us in a time of great need. I understand this as a gift. It is also my hope that this is just a beginning, and that collectively we can build on this rich foundation a vivid and dynamic landscape of liberated sexual, sensual, erotic, and creative energy that can inform our expression and pursuits in all areas of life.
For I have learned that sexually liberated energy, when held properly, is the most loving, potent and creative force in the world. No matter where it is channelled, no matter your intimate practices, your life becomes infinitely more colourful, bright and alive.
Awaken wonder, curiosity and awe
Listen deeply
Do the wild thing, slow down. Take your time. Be leisurely. Give yourself space to be present. Let your body rest. Listen.
Feel deeply
Open yourself to the words, ideas and shapes that live inside your body and your movements. Connect to your senses. Touch yourself, literally and metaphorically.
Open yourself to life
Reconnect with curiosity, desire and imagination. Remember what it feels like to feel alive, excited, inspired. Open the door to eros and the unknown.